Wouldn’t it be great if you could shop online and buy lifelong happiness? The idea’s not as fanciful as it sounds—as long as whatever you buy is meant for someone else. They’ve been studies done that suggests giving to others makes us happy, even happier than spending on ourselves. And I agree! Because our kindness does create a virtuous cycle that promotes long lasting happiness and altruism. “The first time I became a mother, my mother asked me what I want most for my son. After thinking about it, I surprised myself with this answer:
“I want him to be healthy, down to earth, independent, and kind like you.”
If you ask parents what they want above all for their children, I am confident that they’ll all say “HYYPINESS.”! It’s what we’re all want. We’re constantly seeking on an autopilot, regardless of gender, race, age, or religion. But for some, happiness is a challenge.
The big mystery is this:
- Can we be create our happiness?
- Can we learn and our children to be more in control of their happiness?
I spent most of my life researching the meaning of happiness. And the good news is that YES, that is possible.
The thrilling of being kindhearted.
“Our minds work significantly much better when we are relatively optimistic over being pessimistic, anxious, or even disinterested!”
The first two are more problematic to control without help. However the fastest and most dominant way to influence our own happiness is by far through the incentive: Deliberate optimistic actions that we commit to practicing every day. Studies have shown that this can determine how happy we are by up to 80%. The optimistic attitude has been precisely proven to be the most effective at increasing our sense of happiness that includes: Paying forward, acts of kindness, expressing gratitude, appreciations of little things, and self-hypnosis.
I finally realized why I wanted my son to grow up to be healthy, down to earth, independent, and kind just like my Mother. Which led me to the next question I asked myself: How can I help him learn to be this way?
Demonstrating desired behavior is one very important way to achieve this goal. As the famous saying goes “Monkey see, monkey do”, aka reflecting”, “echoing.” Remember a time when you saw your kid trying to copy their dad shaving, or wearing their big shoes, or the girls putting lipstick and trying to walk with those high heels, acting like ladies? Cute, isn’t it? But this is how they learn about the world through the reflection of us or other role models. As parents we must to often exhibit kindness and compassion to ourselves and to others, spatially in front of our children.
“We all have good days and bad day, however there is something good in each day.”
The best formula to success is to always start practicing kindness right from the beginning. By doing this, you are reassuring your child’s happiness to appreciate each and every day by practicing and by refocusing their mindset toward personal and positive objectives and happenings, which are the most ecstatic moments of their day.
“Children, who learn happiness from an early age, bring happiness and good events all throughout their lives.”
In one of the studies published in the year of 2009, in the Journal of Social Psychology, researchers in Great Britain had participants take a survey measuring life satisfaction, then they assigned all 86 participants to one of three groups. One group was instructed to perform a daily act of kindness for the next 10 days. Another group was also told to do something new each day over those 10 days. A third group received no instructions.
After the 10 days were up, the researchers asked the participants to complete the life satisfaction survey again.
The groups that practiced kindness and engaged in novel acts both experienced a significant—and roughly equal—boost in happiness; the third group didn’t get any happier. The findings suggest that good deeds do in fact make people feel good—even when performed over as little as 10 days—and there may be particular benefits to varying our acts of kindness, as novelty seems linked to happiness as well.